The Blonde Diaries

Mike and I attended our first marriage prep class tonight at church. It was suppose to be an Introduction to Marriage (ie here are the rules for getting married here) but it turned quickly into marriage prep. Discussion started out really well – make sure you want to spend the next 50 years married to the person next to you because divorce is much easier and cheaper before the ceremony than after. Followed up with a disclosure that our leader had recommendations for marriage counselors in case any of us were unsure about our impending marriage and wanted to talk. Not exactly the way I wanted to start my Introduction to Marriage let me tell you.

Luckily, we quickly moved onto the rules and regulations. I have to admit I am a tad nervous about a few things. The most troublesome is that Mike and I both have to request baptismal certificates from the church we were baptized in no earlier than 6 months before the date of our ceremony and it must include other sacraments that we have received. Well that is nice when you do everything in one church but when you move around like Mike did or you get baptized in a church out of state that has since closed, it is a tad nerve wracking! Guess it is time to call my Grandma and get her involved in helping the two of us out.

To end things, we were given a 156 questionnaire to answer via scantron. Had we been interfaith, divorced, or co-habitating, it would have been much longer. We are to expect a call in the next week or two to make an appointment to discuss our results and if there were any red flags or major differences between Mike and I’s answers. Luckily I think we both agree that:

• We do not fear that the other one does watch too much tv
• We don’t have any homosexual feelings that may hinder our marriage
• Neither one of us have a drug, alcohol, or gambling addiction that might hinder our marriage
• We do not fear bodily harm from our future spouse
• We aren’t being forced into marriage
• and our families do not hate our choice in mates

It was hard not to laugh at some of the questions but I can see the seriousness and why they ask in case someone does need to disclose something.  It was just that the questionnaire covered so many broad topics and were worded in such a way that it was hard not to chuckle a bit.  Hopefully we passed and we won’t have to discuss anything too personal.

Tags: marriage prep, Wedding